I posted this on another thread, but thought I would repeat it here and see if I could get some more input. Has anyone else experienced "biphobia" from either straights or gays?
I am a bisexual woman who is married to a man. I suppose the argument could be made that it is the "easiest" of the alternative sexualites to be. It could also be the hardest. Biphobia is rampant, not just in the straight world, but the gay community as well. To straights, I am not "straight enough." To gays I am not "gay enough." I am accused by both groups of being afraid to admit that I am really a lesbian.
I love my husband immensely, and know that he is the one I am going to spend a lifetime with. He has been very understanding of my sexual orientation. I once had a straight friend ask me "So, you're bisexual, but you're married to a man...how does that work?" It took me a second to understand what he meant. I laughed out loud and said "Hey, I'm married, not dead! It's the same as any other marriage, I can look, but don't touch!" My friend apparently thought that being bisexual meant that I would want to be with a  woman in addition to my husband. It doesn't. I fell in love with my husband, not because of his chromosomes but because of his personality, his soul, his spirit, not his genitalia. That is not to say that I do not occasionally find myself attracted to other women; it happens, but out of respect for my marriage and deep love for my husband I do not act on those attractions (though I DO have a rich fantasy life, LOL!) If, heaven forbid, anything were to ever happen to him in the future and I were fortunate enough (after a respectable grieving time) to find love again it could just as easily be with a woman as a man.
I am comfortable with who I am; my feelings for my husband are the real deal and those are the most important things. I am hoping that I can find other people LIKE ME here, and maybe we can share ideas and experiences to help educate the straight and gay communities and do away with biphobia.